“You keep track of all my sorrows.[a] You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.”-Psalm 56:8
Earlier this week, I was sobbing about a few different things and a dear friend of mine said something to me that pierced my soul. She said that my tears are valid. There used to be a time in my life that I used to be ashamed of many things including my tears. I now realized the gift of my tears. Our tears are what one of my spiritual mothers calls “a cleansing of our soul”. I want to encourage you to cry or sob if you need to cleanse your soul, grieve, release something to God or whatever your reason is but you should do it. We should never hide or push down your tears. In today’s scripture, we are reminded that God captures our tears.
God is with us every moment of our lives. When we are joyful, devastated or in between, God is with us. We have no reason to think that are tears are not important. Our tears just like every other aspect of our lives our important to God. You do not have to explain your tears to anyone else. If you need to cry, do it. If we did not need to cry, God would not have given us the ability to do so. I am so thankful for my tribe who gives me the space and freedom to cry as I need to do so. I am not judged or shamed for my tears. I have many people who are available to sit with me and be present, who give me a box of tissue and pray with and for me. Psalm 42:3 says, “My tears have been my food day and night, While they say to me all day long, “Where is your God?””
I also know how to sit with someone during their tears and allow them to cry. We must do unto others as we want others to do unto us. I am honored to be a friend who has lovingly been present with someone during their moment of cleansing, grief or sadness. I want to encourage you to allow yourself the freedom and space to cry. If you are in prayer or just feel a sob coming up, do not put it aside. Allow yourself to cry and remember that everything, eventually, in due time will be alright. If you have tears that are backdated that you never cried, that is okay. You can cry and grieve over something you have avoided or delayed your tears. May God bless you and keep you as you continue be more than what he has called you to be.