We are continuing our 2019 goal progress. Stay encouraged and know we will finish 2019 strong. Today, we are going to focus on our expectations and standards. We cannot lower our expectations and standards. Sometimes, we compromise our standards and expectations for many reasons including fear, being too comfortable, a limited mindset or support system and more. We must decide right now to stay the course before the seasons change, the holidays are upon us and more.
When we lower our expectations, we are living opposed to our happiness and joy. Also, we are setting ourselves up to be hurt and disappointed down the road which can be prevented. I used to lower my expectations and standards. This happened for a variety of reasons including being wounded, exhausted, desperate, manipulated, naive and more. I now value myself a great deal more and compromising my expectations and standards goes against the new me. What are some signs that you have lowered your expectations? Let us review these three scenarios?
- You have a new friend. In the beginning, you used to talk to one another on a regular basis. Recently, you call and text your friend and now it takes at least a week for her to acknowledge your call or text. When you do the same thing, it is a problem. So now you have accepted the week or more lag of communication but deep down inside you are upset. What do you do next?
- You have changed your budget. You have decided that you are paying off your car which has been on your vision board for three years. You are seven payments away from paying off your car when you realize Christmas is in a little over four months. You ponder the idea of using some of the money set aside to pay off your car to buy Christmas gifts? What do you do next?
- You have become a beast with your workouts. There was a time that the gym used to scare you but now you own the gym. You are working out one day when someone you have never seen comments on your workout. This person says that your intense level intimidates them and you need to dial it back while walking away. You are at a crossroads? Do you continue to go at your usual intense level and let your enemy know you see them or are you are going to dial it back to please a stranger?
Our reaction will be different in each scenario. We need to remember that our expectations and standards belong to each of us individually. Everyone will not support our progress, goals and expectations. We need to have honest conversations with the people around us. We need to do regular heart checks to make sure that we are being honest with ourselves. When we set a goal, we need to make sure we are being honest about our progress. We also do not want to have the same exact goal without progress forever. So, as we continue our push toward finishing 2019 strong, we should not lower our expectations and standards. Let’s decide to finish 2019 strong.