Stop Wasting Your Tears and Time

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Once you take your first breath, your eligible to be hurt, heartbroken, disappointed and so on. Initially, you will have negative feelings and emotions. There comes a day you will need to get out of that initial heartbreak and move on. I want to give you a gentle and timely message. Stop wasting your tears and time on people who do not deserve them. Sometimes, we think the more we give to someone who is indifferent or who is using us, the better things will become for us and the so called relationship or friendship. I want to let you know that is not true. The tears and time that you waste on someone who is not worth it could have been invested in making a true and fruitful relationship  or friendship better and stronger. All of us have been guilty of this.

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I remember when I would lose sleep. money, time, tears and more because someone rejected or discarded me. At the time, I thought I had done something wrong or that I was not good enough. I finally realized over time and enough disappointments, that I may have my flaws (we all do) but I am a great person. I should be treated with respect. I am good enough and so are you. If you are holding on to someone or something that you have to convince that you are great, let it or them go.  Your life will not improve or grow until you prune certain people, places and things out of your life. You have to setup healthy boundaries to protect your heart and whole being rom being trampled on and discarded by someone who is not worthy of it.

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I am not standing on a soap box. I am rejoicing on the other side of pruning, setting up boundaries and investing in people, places and things that support and love me unconditionally. I also love and support the people around me unconditionally since I have cleared the distractions and clutter around me. The joy that I am living cannot be described. I am walking in freedom, peace, love and more. I know I am a queen. It is nice to have other people endorse me but I know with in the deepest part of my soul my worth. My encouragement to you as we are in the second half of 2019 is to examine your surroundings. Take an honest look and you may have to make some changes.

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Those changes may include apologizing to people who you have neglected or put aside. You may need to apologize to yourself for the wasting of your resources, time and energy on people or things that were not fruitful. Also, decide to forgive people who may no longer be part of your story anymore.  You may have to prune people out of your life for a season or a lifetime. Whatever you decide to do, I am cheering you and myself on as we finish 2019 on a remarkable note. Let’s do this now because our decisions are an investment into our future. So here is to us living a life that has unspeakable joy, peace, love and much more than we could have ever dreamed.



Published by Ada Orie

I am a Nigerian-American Christian woman based in Baltimore who writes about Christianity, dating, food, friendships and more. My goal is to provide a free and safe place where people can express themselves while learning from one another. Thank you for checking out my blog. I look forward to learning from you.

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