Summer is here and well under way. I am personally enjoying the longer days and the celebrations of weddings, baby showers, retirements. new homes and more. I still need to honor my bathing suit challenge. The long days can lead to a new romance or not. Whether you are in love, fresh from a breakup or in between, summer can still be full of love for you. Remember, you must love yourself before you can love others. We must be careful that we are intentional about our actions so we and the people around us do not get hurt. This article applies to all the relationships around us.
- Tie up loose ends: If you are still in a relationship or your heart is on the mend, you are not ready for a relationship. The new person should not be bombarded with baggage from your previous relationship. Imagine you are starting a new relationship with someone and on your first date they cannot stop talking about their ex? Imagine someone dumping in your lap bags of anger, resentment, bitterness, mistrust, suspicion, infidelity, debt and more on your lap from a previous relationship? You will have some past issues pop up in the new relationship but that should not be a running theme.
- Tell the truth: Your relationship must be built on a foundation of truth. You cannot omit anything and expect your mate to accept it down the road. You need to give your potential mate to choose to be with you or not based on your truth. I am not saying you should spill all your guts on your first date. I am saying you should not allow someone to fall in love with you based on a lie which is wrong.
- Be Yourself: You need to be yourself from day one. If you pretend to be someone else for the sake of acquiring a relationship. There is nothing wrong with making a great impression. The problem is when you say you are a five-star chef but the idea of making popcorn in the microwave terrifies you. The world is unique enough for you to be yourself.
- Take it slow: Allow your potential relationship to unfold slowly. There is no reason for you to name your first born on your first date. Allow the relationship to unfold organically and over time. I am not saying date seven years but there is no reason to rush. If something is meant to be, you do not need to rush.
This article will be continued but this is a great starting point. This article applied to being in a family, friendships, associations with coworkers, church members, neighbors and more. Tie up loose ends from the past. Tell the truth and be yourself so you can walk in freedom. Take ii slow and allow things to develop organically. Summer is meant to be fun and carefree. Let’s decide to fall in love with summer, ourselves and the relationships and other associations around us.