“You are ugly.”
“You are stupid.”
“You are fat.”
“You will never speak in complete sentences.”
These are some of the things that have been spoken against me in different stages of my life by strangers and people who were close to me. I am sure you have a list of things that have been said about you. I know these statements are not true about me. I can say they have never been and will never be true. When someone speaks something that does not line up with what you know to be true about yourself, let them know their opinion is not valid. You have the right to protect yourself from all dangers which includes hurtful words.
Sometimes, people say hurtful things to others because of their own insecurities, personal circumstances and jealousy. Whatever the reason, no one has the right or authority to tear down another person. Words hurt and those effects can last for a long time. There are some people still hurt by words spoken many years or even decades ago. If you are remembering an instance where you used hurtful words toward someone, I would recommend that you apologize and make amends.
The most hurtful words come from people who claim to love us. It could be a family member, significant other, friend, coworker, church member and so one. Whatever the case, we must be mindful of how we speak and converse with others. The same can be said with social media, emails and texts. If your intent is to hurt someone with your words, do correspond with the person. None of us are perfect and all of us have fallen short but when you have a reputation for spewing hurtful words, you need to examine your heart.
If you are the person who has been on the receiving end of hurtful words, I would like to say I am sorry to hear that. I also would encourage you to heal from those wounds in your own time and your own way. Whatever you decide to do, I hope that you will heal and be surrounded by people who will encourage, love and support you. So the next time someone says something hurtful to you, let them know their opinion is not valid.