So you are falling in love or have been in love for years. Congratulations! Love is beautiful. Self love is important also. You cannot give away what you do not show to yourself. Maybe you are just breaking up with someone or you are taking a break from love. I know this is not an ideal situation but at least you are walking in your truth and I hope you will have a smooth healing process. Despite the state of your love life, you can still be full of joy. Happiness and joy are used interchangeably but they are not the same thing. Happiness is dependent on what is happening to you. So if you get a deposit of $1 million dollars, you are happy. If you are cut off in traffic, you are not happy. Joy is a constant and inner feeling of pleasure. It has nothing to do with whatever is happening around you.
Joy is there in the good and bad times. Will we have moments when we are sad or down? Of course but eventually we should come to a place where our circumstances cannot take us out. We will fall in life and sometimes our circumstances will knock us down but we have to get back up. I used to be swayed back and forth by my emotions. If I was in a relationship or so I thought, I was happy. If I was alone, I was not happy. My circumstances used to dictate my happiness. One day years ago, I had enough living a shell of a life. I decided even if life is not perfect, I will walk in joy. No person, place or thing can take away your joy. There maybe attempts to taint your joy but stealing it, not possible. So here is to being joyful no matter what life throws our way. Joy is the way to go!