It’s Okay Not to Be Okay.

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Years ago, I came across a song by Plumb called “Exhale .” The beginning of the song says the following, “It’s okay to not be okay. This is a safe place. This is a safe place. Don’t be afraid. Don’t be ashamed. There’s still hope here. There’s still hope.”  Sometimes, you can feel like as a Christian that you have to be okay all the time. You cannot not show your emotions and be real about how you feel. I do not care how devoted you are to God, how much you attend church and how many scriptures you have memorized, you will have a moment when you cannot not hold it together and have to let it out. You have to admit that everything is not okay. In James 1:2-3 (NIV) it says, “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance.” James did not say if you face a trial but when you face one so all of us will face a trial. When trials come, we can take a moment to step back and pray to seek God’s enduring love and peace to help us get to the other side. 

When God created us, he equipped us with tears and emotions to express ourselves. You can express your anger, disappointment, sadness, sorrow and more. Guess what? God can handle it and will love us anyway. Can you imagine being in a relationship with someone who does not express their emotions? They keep everything bottled up and you have no idea that they are going through it? God knows everything about us. Nothing is a surprise to God and he will love us through any and everything. He is available to us 24/7 and will dwell with is in the valley as well as the mountaintop. Psalm 139: 8 (NKJV) says, “8 If I ascend into heaven, You are there;If I make my bed in [a]hell, behold, You are there.” 

Jesus had times of solitude but he had disciples that followed him not because he needed them but to set an example for us. We cannot live a life of isolation. There is nothing wrong with having moments of solitude but that should not be your lifestyle. You need people who can encourage you on good and bad days. Yes we should always be joyful but some days, you will need a little extra help staying focused on joy. 1 Peter 4:8 (NIV) says, “8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” When you love deeply, that means you can help some through a tough time and they can do the same for you.  My encouragement to you is that you will eventually be okay. 

Published by Ada Orie

I am a Nigerian-American Christian woman based in Baltimore who writes about Christianity, dating, food, friendships and more. My goal is to provide a free and safe place where people can express themselves while learning from one another. Thank you for checking out my blog. I look forward to learning from you.

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