Last week, our nation said goodbye to two remarkable people: The Queen of Soul, Aretha L. Franklin and American Hero and Statesmen Senator John S. McCain, III. When someone dies, that person leaves behind loves ones, friends and many more people who will forever feel and grieve their absence. If you have lived long enough, you will experience grief with the death of someone you loved. Everyone grieves differently and it is a process. The best way to support someone who is grieving is to show you care. You can call them and be understanding if they do not return your call right away. You can send them a card. You can pray for them. You bring them a dish if they are receiving visitors. You can show up for the funeral or memorial service if you are invited. You can send flowers or a sympathy basket. Extend patience and understanding because everyone grieves differently, some people may need more time to grief.
You can check on them after the funeral or memorial service. After the services, the phone calls, visits, meals and more come to a sudden stop. As we approach the holidays, this is a good time to reach out to people who have experienced a death no matter how long it has been. Holidays, birthdays, anniversaries and more can be especially difficult. A phone call, card, handwritten letter, email, a meal or a text can bright up the day of someone who is grieving. If you are someone who has experienced bereavement, my hope and prayer is that each day will get better and my condolences to you and your family.