Dating Untangled: Stop Being Suspicious

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So you have decided to take the leap and date. Congratulations. I know it is daunting but we need to remember that is a new potential relationship. This new potential mate should be given the benefit of doubt. All of us have been betrayed and disappointed but we cannot use that lens to look at a new relationship. So here are some things to keep in mind as you approach this new potential relationship.

A missed call is okay: If you potential mate misses your call, it can happen. Most people are not available to answer their phone 24/7.  Calling multiple times consecutively does not increase your chances of getting a returned call. There is a logical explanation. The person could be asleep, driving, working out, at work, church or just not available when you call. When you miss a call, it is not intentional. You may not just be available. Now if every time you call, your potential mate is not available, you need to have a conversation.

Delayed texts happen: I know now we can see when someone reads our texts and messages which can make unnecessary conflict. If your potential mate does not return your text within five minutes, again they maybe busy or maybe they need a moment to compose their thoughts.  If your potential mate never returns your texts, you need to have a conversation.

Social media stalking is not cute: Do not stalk your potential mate on social media. I can see a basic review but contacting everyone on their friends list or seeing when they were last online compared to their last response to your phone call or text is not right. Let your relationship develop organically. If you see them online a lot more than actually having an actually one on one conversation, it is time to have a real conversation.

Creating a fake profile: Do not under any circumstances create a fake profile to checkup on your potential mate. Starting a relationship with dishonesty is a bad idea. If you have any questions or concerns, say so.

Do not use friend detectives: Do not enlist friends to help you out to spy on a potential mate. Once again, you do not want to start your relationship out on a bad foot.

Use common sense and if something is not right, ask questions or walk away. You are too valuable to waste your time.

Published by Ada Orie

I am a Nigerian-American Christian woman based in Baltimore who writes about Christianity, dating, food, friendships and more. My goal is to provide a free and safe place where people can express themselves while learning from one another. Thank you for checking out my blog. I look forward to learning from you.

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