Dating Untangled: How to Prepare for Your First Date

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Yesterday we decided to establish the difference between a date and meal between coworkers and you can see that article by clicking here. Today’s article will focus on preparing for your first date. The most important thing is to enjoy yourself whether this will lead to another date, a decision to be associates or friends or to never see one another again. It is okay to enjoy this process while feeling and looking your very best.

  1. Schedule a mutually agreeable time: Your date should be at a time that works for both of you. If you are on call or you will be otherwise occupied, you should not agree on that time. If you decide to do a first mini date like coffee, understand that time time maybe abbreviated.
  2. Meet in a Public Place: I do not care how good your chemistry is over the phone or through texts, you need to meet in a public place. For safety reasons and also to observe how your date treats other people aside from you. Also, if you may not want to disclose where you live or your car type to a complete stranger.
  3. Tell someone about your date: Make sure you tell someone where you are going and the full name of your date. It is always better to be safe. Make sure it is someone you trust and who will be concerned about you.
  4. Be honest: If you dislike a certain cuisine or do not like a certain town, be honest. Don’t agree to something that you know will make you unhappy. You want to make sure that things are on even ground so you both can have a great time.
  5. Look your best: You should make sure you look nice. You do not have to buy something new but you want to make sure your clothing is clean and wrinkle free. If you have a friend who wears the same size as you, you can ask to borrow their outfit. Your shoes should be comfortable and have no holes. You can do your hair and makeup but moderation is the key. Ask yourself this question? How would you feel if your date put in no effort for their appearance?
  6. Feel your best: Make sure you sleep well the night before and that you eat a snack before your meal. You do not want to arrive at your date sleep deprived and hungry.
  7. Plan ahead: To avoid spending 20 minutes looking for parking or getting  lost,  look up the location and get familiar with the route. If you are taking public transportation, be mindful of how long you may have to wait and also how long your mode of transportation will run. If you are taking a Lyft or Uber, plan ahead by booking your ride ahead of time.
  8. Arrive a little early: You would never arrive late for a job interview? You should arrive a few minutes early. It shows that you care and that you are considerate of your date as well as interested  in spending time with them.
  9. Put down the device: The worst thing that can happen is that both of you spend your time on your smartphone, tablet, or other device instead of trying to make a connection with each other. We have all seen two people at meal  both on devices for an extended period of time. Emergencies happen but not the whole date.
  10.  Focus on your date: When you are out, your temptation maybe to look at everyone else in your establishment or daydream. Be present with your date and it is okay to have moments of silence to breathe and take in the ambiance of everything.  Also, you want to enjoy your meal.
  11. Take your time eating and drinking: I know this is common sense but your nerves could get the best of you. You do not have to hurry so there is no reason to rush through your meal.
  12. Apologize and forgive quickly.: If your date does run a few minutes late, accidentally spills something or cuts you off when speaking, show mercy and don’t hold a grudge. You are just meeting so everything is not going to be smooth on the first date. If you are the person who committed the offense, apologize quickly.
  13. Ending Early: If your date stands you up or is extremely late, physically or verbally abusive, crude or you are just not feeling your date’s vibe, it is okay to end your meal early. If you need to call the police, do it.  You should never put yourself in danger and also there is not reason to waste your time.
  14. Conclusion: You can make a decision about if there will be another date or not tomorrow. You are too valuable to settle and please take this process one step at a time. Dating is fun as long as both parties are honest and are upfront about their expectations while respecting one another.  Enjoy the process!

Published by Ada Orie

I am a Nigerian-American Christian woman based in Baltimore who writes about Christianity, dating, food, friendships and more. My goal is to provide a free and safe place where people can express themselves while learning from one another. Thank you for checking out my blog. I look forward to learning from you.

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